Copy of Judging a Book By It’s Cover

  • Posted on January 1, 2016 at 8:42 pm

You’ve all heard the phrase

“You Can’t Judge a Book by it’s Cover”

But yet we all do it.

Just think about it,  when you’re browsing in a bookstore aren’t you attracted to a book by how interesting the cover is?   They may be colorful, or have some unique picture or phrase that grabs your attention so you’ll pick it up to find out more, right?  They are designed that way, that’s marketing. 

Believe it or not it is the same with people! 

Did you know that you only have three to seven seconds upon meeting someone to make an impression on them?   In this short time, the other person will form an opinion about you that is based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed.

That means you will be  judged before you can even open your mouth to speak!

This is done on a subconscious/emotional level of the brain.  So there is nothing you can do about it, or can you?

As Will Rogers once said “You never get a second chance to make a first impression

Like it or not, you need to grab people’s attention right away by your appearance.

Though your true beauty is on the inside, your personality will take time for people to see.

“It’s beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.” ~Anonymous ~

There is only one that does not judge you by your looks, that is God.  “…for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” 1 Sam. 16:7b.

But when dealing with people how you present yourself will determine if someone will want to be your friend, consider you for a job, or feel that you are trustworthy, and so on.

So what can you do to make a good first impression that will last?   How important is your appearance?

Your clothes, your hair, and your mannerisms all play a part in the impression you make on others.  

Let’s start with the way you dress.

What is the best way to dress for the meeting or occasion?  If it’s a business meeting, a job interview, or a first date even, think about  what is the appropriate attire?  Also ask yourself what other people will be wearing so you are not over or under dressed for the event.

Wearing the correct Season of colors for your specific skin tone, eyes and hair is crucial in making the best impression and feeling confident about your appearance.

If you have confidence in yourself others will notice right away.  A polite and courteous behavior helps make a good first impression.  

How about your personal grooming?   Cleanliness is next to godliness!  Nicely styled hair, neat and clean clothes (not wrinkled like you wore them to bed the night before), and appropriately applied makeup are all important.  Oh yeah and take it easy on the perfume!  Too much can be just as offensive if not more so than none at all.

Project a positive attitude, even when you are nervousness, and remember to smile,  it’s contagious!

People will “read” you on the outside before getting to know you on the inside, so strive to be the most beautiful you can be both inside and out.

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Scary Faces

  • Posted on October 10, 2014 at 7:16 am

Halloween is coming soon!

It’s time for Jack o’ Lanterns, scary sights and sounds,

lots of candy, Trick or Treaters dressed up like goblins, witches, ghosts and zombies.

trick or treat

It’s all in fun!

For little children it’s all about the candy. For teens it’s a time of mischief and pranks, oh and candy!

Personally as a child I never liked to go trick or treating.  But I do enjoy handing out candy to the children in the neighborhood.  It’s fun to try to guess who they are under those masks and makeup. The holiday is only one day a year, and when its over the masks come off, the costumes get put away and life goes back to normal.



But don’t you hate it when you see people that look like they are in costume all year round?  What I’m talking about is those that overdo their makeup to where they look scary!

Here’s some examples:

Here is the ghost look

Here is the ghost look

the zombie look

the scary clown look

the scary clown look







the Barbie look

Overdone Eyebrows

the clown look

It’s a wonder these women don’t realize how scary they look!  Sure everyone has had makeup mishaps, where you use a little too much blush and look like a clown, or put a little too much foundation on and it makes you look ghostly pale.  There is a time and place for smoky eyes, but when overdone can make you look like a zombie.  The Barbie look is the one that is really creepy if you ask me!

Makeup should enhance your natural beauty not distract or take away from your attractiveness.  So don’t get too carried away with the blush, powder, shadow or eyeliner!

Remember Halloween is only one day a year!


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To Whom much is Given

  • Posted on December 13, 2012 at 6:33 pm

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “To whom much is given, much is expected.”


This can be true in how we perceive people.  For instance, we tend to automatically assume that a good-looking person (male or female) is better at everything.  They must have better marriages, better jobs, be better lovers, are healthier and happier.  We even expect attractive people to be more intelligent!  This is a preconceived expectation that starts as early as childhood.

Unknowingly, parents and teachers alike favor, and are more lenient to good-looking children over others.   What’s really amazing is that favored students actually DO better in school, due to the fact that the teachers believe in them, and treat them accordingly.  Thus it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy, known as the “Pygmalion Effect”, or the “Halo Effect”.

The danger here is that these highly attractive people can learn to use their looks to manipulate, cheat, deceive, and if taken to extremes even commit crimes.  As shocking as that may seem, no one suspects them for “they can do no wrong” in the eyes of the beholder.  Think about movies you’ve seen, aren’t criminals usually ugly or disfigured somehow?  It is the good-looking bad guys or girls that stump us!  Does it make sense now that the most successful real life assasins in the world are attractive women?

Physical beauty is an advantage (far or unfair) for both men and women.  From childhood cute little girls learn to flirt with daddy for attention. With the right look she can melt his heart, and he will do anything for his lil girl!

Unfair as it may seem people make judgment calls on the subconscious level, and are not even aware of it.  Though you’re true beauty is on the inside, your personality will take time for people to see.

So what can you do about it when it comes to your appearance?

How you dress, how carry yourself and your mannerisms all play an important part in the impression you make on others.  If you have confidence in yourself others will notice right away.  A polite and courteous behavior also helps make a good first impression.

Since people will “read” you on the outside before getting to know you on the inside, strive to be the most beautiful you can be both inside and out.

“It’s beauty that captures your attention;

personality which captures your heart.” ~Anonymous ~

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